Creating a new routine.
“That’s the way aha, aha, I like it, aha, aha”. Show of hands, who is a creature of habit/routine?
All of us? Okay, that’s what I thought.
I like things the way I like them. And due to my Type A personality, I may be a creature of habit a little more than someone who isn’t Type A. And that is probably why I run my own business, creating the hours I want, and doing things the way I like.
So what happens when you mix two people who are creatures of their own routine?
You get two people who have to learn a new routine.
I have always heard that the first year of marriage is the hardest. And while that isn’t always true, there are certain changes that have to take place in that first year that aren’t always easy.
Like creating a new routine.
I am a busybee. I enjoying being busy with things I love. And I will easily overwhelm myself to the point where I don’t have time for anything else other than my work. Kris can easily clear his mind and schedule so he can decompress. The first couple years of marriage I had to learn from him. I thought he was being lazy, he thought I was prioritizing work. He was right, I was wrong.
I had to begin setting business hours. So that come 5:00, I was off of the computer to spend time with my husband. And that started becoming a new and much happier routine for me.
Together, using our strengths, we developed a better routine where we both were happy. So whether youre Type A or go with flow, your may need to change your own personal routine to fit in with your partners routine (and vise versa). Because prioritizing your own agenda will only create problems in the future.
And the irony of developing a nice routine together, is that once you finally get in sync and that new routine is created that you both begin to naturally create…..it is time to get a new routine started.
Like adding a baby to that perfectly knit routine? Yeah, please expect to learn an entirely new routine.